There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
Sexual liberation is a power that can transform life, a sense of trust is important. Our sexuality is really built around a longing for acceptance and the communion that acceptance allows. We get erotically excited by deeply tender things – even in the midst of words and actions that look quite aggressive. True sexual liberation or self-acceptance of true liberation is to reduce the unfair and debilitating burden of shame.
On the other hand, sexually used seems primarily about a unpleasant physiological sensation and not about acceptance – often leading to loneliness. It is inversely proportional to fulfillment or emotional satisfaction, the other person is just as a tool or means of (attempted) sexual pleasure, and nothing more.We generally urge for such sexual activities to overcome our insecurities which has resulted from our very own misconceptions about our failure’s in different aspects of life leading to disrespecting SEX- mental and psychological phenomenon or meeting of two minds & souls – enacted with the help of the body.
We often feel sexually used or may be we allow ourselves to be used – sexually , when knowingly or unknowingly we try to help the other person who is trying to overcome his or her deep rooted insecurities ; we tend to be with the person as we fail to understand the value of our own emptiness(peace) thus replacing it with a mere desire to be with the outer personality of the other person which more overwhelming.
But again ..
“Where they love, they cannot be desire. Where they desire, they cannot love.”
Saying so…I would like to quote Chanakya’s word about a wife..
“A good wife is one who serves her husband in the morning like a mother does, loves him in the day like a sister does and pleases him like a prostitute in the night.”
Therefore ……One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light(sexual liberation) ,but by making the darkness conscious (sexually used) .Again I repeat – There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
