{"id":125,"date":"2019-09-19T09:02:03","date_gmt":"2019-09-19T09:02:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/comesutra.orionadeas.com\/?p=125"},"modified":"2019-09-20T05:42:16","modified_gmt":"2019-09-20T05:42:16","slug":"sexual-liberation-being-sexually-used","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/2019\/09\/19\/sexual-liberation-being-sexually-used\/","title":{"rendered":"Sexual Liberation & Being Sexually Used"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually<\/strong> used.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sexual liberation is a power that can transform  life, a sense of trust is important. Our sexuality is really built around a longing for acceptance and the communion that acceptance allows. We get erotically excited by deeply tender things \u2013 even in the midst of words and actions that look quite aggressive.  True sexual liberation or self-acceptance  of true liberation is to reduce the unfair and debilitating burden of shame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, sexually used seems primarily about a unpleasant physiological sensation and not  about acceptance \u2013 often  leading to  loneliness.  It is inversely  proportional  to  fulfillment or emotional satisfaction, the other person is just as a  tool or means of (attempted) sexual pleasure, and nothing more.We generally  urge for such sexual activities to overcome our  insecurities which has resulted from  our very own misconceptions about our failure\u2019s  in different aspects of life  leading to disrespecting  SEX- mental and psychological phenomenon or meeting of two minds & souls \u2013 enacted with the help of the body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We often feel sexually used  or may be we allow ourselves to be used – sexually  , when  knowingly or unknowingly  we try to help the other  person who is trying to overcome his or her deep rooted insecurities ; we tend to be with the person  as  we fail to understand the value of our  own emptiness(peace)  thus replacing it with a mere desire to be with the outer personality of the other person which more overwhelming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But again ..<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhere they  love, they cannot be desire. Where they desire, they cannot love.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Saying so\u2026I would  like to quote Chanakya\u2019s word about a wife..<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cA good wife is one who serves her husband in the morning like a mother does, loves him in the day like a sister does and pleases him like a prostitute in the night.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore \u2026\u2026One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light(sexual liberation) ,but by making the darkness conscious (sexually used)<\/strong> .Again I repeat – There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used. Sexual liberation is a power that can transform  life, a sense of trust is important. Our sexuality is really built around a longing for acceptance and the communion that acceptance allows. We get erotically excited by deeply tender things \u2013 even in …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":126,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,3],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/125"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=125"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/125\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":167,"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/125\/revisions\/167"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/126"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=125"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=125"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/comesutra.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=125"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}