In today’s fast paced world people tend to overlook their sexual needs under the guise of having excessive work or being busy. Free time is usually spent in front of the TV or captivated by the infinite scrolling that social media has to offer. Amidst all this, taking care of one’s sexual self has taken the backseat.
Your sexual wellness begins with you. This means devoting some time, commitment and patience to nurture your sexual self. Once you embrace it, you can truly benefit from all that sex and intimacy has to offer.
Here are four ways in which you can nurture your sexual wellness.
- Create desire
You don’t need to wait for the right moment to spark a fire. You can start the fire yourself, whenever you please. Create this desire by kissing your partner, tenderly caressing each other or simply whispering sweet nothings while relaxing together. This may create desire that leads to sex or whatever intimacy you prefer. On some occasions, it may not lead to sex at all and that’s absolutely normal too. Sexual desire may be intense on some days and perhaps not so much on some other days. What’s important to remember is that you can create it whenever you want it. Be the master of your own desire.
- Schedule sex
At first it sounds bizarre but with busy work and family schedules, many couples find solace in scheduling sex. While some people love it, many others find it uncomfortable or even unnatural. In any case, it is something that you should give a thought to. Especially if you find yourself procrastinating sex due to regular stressors of life. Make time for intimacy, this will give you something to look forward to through your week. And if scheduling sex actually brings back your sex life and creates more opportunities for intimacy then it surely is worth a try. Without experimenting or trying something new, you won’t make the most of your sexual experiences. And who knows, over time you may actually begin to enjoy it and look forward to these special moments with your partner.
If you have been experiencing any pain or discomfort, be it mental or physical, make sure to see a physician or a therapist. If you have issues regarding sex, talk about it to a specialist. This will help you relax, understand your own body and open up your body to new sexual experiences that work for you. Set your own pace and give yourself the time and care you need. There may be times when you want to play with yourself without your partner. Don’t feel guilty about it. Having your personal time and pleasuring yourself on your own is also a form of self-care. It helps you explore further what you enjoy most. Once you learn this, sharing it with your partner can only heighten your sexual experiences.
Communication is the key to truly enhance your sexual wellness. Talk to your partner about your likes, dislikes, needs, desires as well as theirs. Make sure you both feel safe while being intimate. At first, you might feel awkward sharing such intimate thoughts or even worry that the other person may not like it. But the more you hide your thoughts, the more unpleasant the whole sexual act becomes. Once you feel displeasure repeatedly, this leads to resentment towards your partner. This will hamper both, your own sexual wellness and that of your relationship. Hence, it is important to stay open and talk more. Talking will create a deeper understanding in your relationship leading to more fulfilling sexual experiences.
With these four tips, you’re all set to increase your sexual wellness and sustain intimacy through the hustle-bustle of daily life. Good luck!